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cruzifer said:
Funny. I just advised a young chap who frequents this community with a female named profile and who sought real life meeting not to be pushy and over-focussed. My girl friend sometimes shows me pushy messages from males from a sex dating app (we're pretty liberal folks, open to meet new friends): Those reflect some kind of "urgency" and lack of interest in her as a person. "Fulfill my wish to fuck" - or (here): "Serve my crux-kink!"
Well... how about doing things in the usual order: 1) get to know, 2) eventually do crux play together?

I have happily met with a man and a woman from cruxforums in real life.

We just wrote a couple of times, exchanged phone numbers, chit-chat, bought flight tickets... and the result is what you see as my profile picture: Few times together on crosses - next to very nice downtown dinings, chatting about life etc..
Before that, I had also met US Americans (myself being from Europe), and I very much enjoyed the trip to Texas for all the vacation-stuff, Houston BDSM scene party and that crux play in my friends' "garden" - with 2 miles between neighbours.

However, for the majority of people (almost all of which men), the internet is no longer means of communication but a way to live life behind a screen. Well, that's alright (though to me movies like "The Matrix" had always been dystopias). I personally do not waste time jerking off in front of a computer screen (and call it "sex life"), but go out and meet people, talk about life and passions ...and sometimes mention my crux kink, such as on BDSM events. I met my girl friend through a vanilla dating app, and on our first meeting she actually mentioned her plan to attend a BDSM party - whereupon I told her about my hook suspension, BDSM etc. in the past... and so we went to that party and I put her on a Spanish Horse and carressed and kissed her by which she got and enjoyed orgasms - and learned about a new (masochistic) side of her sexuality.
When I mention and explain my kink, some men and women get attracked by the idea of crux-play; so we just arrange things and play - the same way we say: "Hey, let's do a tracking tour next weekend or go to see that standup comedian."
My Austrian friend's girl-friend had a kink to be "burried in a grave", so she enacted that for her, building a box for the head with oxygen tube etc. and letting her "dig her own grave" on the international summer BDSM camp (SISC) in Denmark. Different people, different kinks.

Internet's promise to bring together people has not been fulfilled. It is rather the opposite: Shy people, particularly men, often with no sex life at all (other than masturbation), have settled themselves into this "life" of consumtion (porn), and the ability of human interaction is degenerating progressively. That is a nice trap, is it not? A late Dutch-German sex researcher concluded about the internet that his country was "becoming a masturbation society" - and he died 9 years ago.

And, by the way, I consider 99.9% of profiles in this community registered by men.
Always funny, when we get approached by a "woman", agree to get in touch, and - after enthusiastic writing - "she" realises that at one point "she" will have to show "herself" by a phone call or meeting in a public place. "Oops." - Kindergarten!
"I cannot give my private phone" (...so I never really want to meet people?) - "No prob. Get yourself a skype account that you can dump again, if needed" - "Em... I have no microphone" ...and so on, and so on, and so on...
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I wish I could see that avatar more clearly.
 
Yeah still get the occasional newbie assuming I am a woman, cause my avatar is female pic I made.(even if my profile says I am male)
Some are quite rude/entitled ,some demanding for nudes or even submision in their first PM.

I assume female(in profile) members must be getting a greater portion of (male) idiotitic messages.
 
dfg42 said:
indeed a problem, and funny that it is only a male female problem and not the other way around also.
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I think it is because males (as far as sex is concerned) are more visually oriented than women. Don't get me wrong, we look and we like what we see, but I am much more interested in a man AFTER he shows me he is intelligent, has heart and soul. My brothers admit (and we are back to base biological programming here) that if a woman is attractive (and that is a personal definition) they will briefly wonder what she's like in bed and they may even try to find out. But they aren't keeping her around if all she has is a body and willingness to spread her legs,

I have PMed over the years with a number of male members and I find my interest is kept by what they say (even when we disagree) and how they say it.

The LAST thing I want is a dick pic. If you think THAT is what is best about you move on please.

kisses

willowfall
 
willowfall said:
I think it is because males (as far as sex is concerned) are more visually oriented than women. Don't get me wrong, we look and we like what we see, but I am much more interested in a man AFTER he shows me he is intelligent, has heart and soul. My brothers admit (and we are back to base biological programming here) that if a woman is attractive (and that is a personal
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You probably guessed my professional background and considering that, I never, really never got the impression that females are looking for the intelligent man, quite the opposite. We have a proverb here (Wenn's au doeselet, wenn's numme hoeselet) in a not so good English: "Even if he is as intelligent as a wrecker, if he only has a pecker". The point I wanted to stress is that males tend to be aggressive against females in the mating, whilst female are aggressive in the not-mating... That is(!) strange, both actually. It prevents normal behaviour.
 
dfg42 said:
You probably guessed my professional background and considering that, I never, really never got the impression that females are looking for the intelligent man, quite the opposite. We have a proverb here (Wenn's au doeselet, wenn's numme hoeselet) in a not so good English: "Even if he is as intelligent as a wrecker, if he only has a pecker". The point I wanted to stress is that males tend to be aggressive against females in the mating, whilst female are aggressive in the not-mating... That is(!) strange, both actually. It prevents normal behaviour.
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You see things too extreme! A woman’s entourage consists at least of an intelligent man, a man with humour, a romantic man, one for the sex and one with lots of money to spend for her.:rota2::roto2cafe::roto2rie::roto2qtemeto::roto2gay::roto2palm:
 
willowfall said:
Hello Gentlemen;

I've been debating for a while if I should post this or not. I'm sure those of you who know me are not surprised I came down on the side of opening my big mouth.

But it is in the cause of fostering better intersex relations.

And I don't speak for any woman but myself.

Recently, I have been contacted by a couple of guys, who wanted to talk and other things, from here in the group thru PM. I've got absolutely no problem with that. Everybody who knows me, knows I love to interact and play. So far so good.

But I think there are things that you should all be aware of.

Cruxforums is not a dating app. I am honored that you find me interesting enough to want to talk to me and think that you “love” me but I have no interest in being your sex slave or meeting you to help you fulfill your fantasies. Go ahead and ask if you wish (who knows I may change my mind) but be grownup about it when I say no.

Don't ask for personal identifying information, I have been stalked in RL once already because of being in the old Yahoo Crux group it is not an experience I wish to repeat. I don't use my real name on the internet so that I have anonymity. And for God's sake DON'T ask for pictures, naked and otherwise, I have no intention of being the next internet poster girl. I have over the years given my likeness to artists I know will be discreet with it. If I come to trust you that much, and I think you have talent, I'll make the offer.

I have no problem chatting with you about your fantasies. But understand I may not share them or even understand them. That doesn't make them wrong they just don't interest me the way they interest you.

But let's say we become interested in deeply discussing a particular fantasy. I generally find women are more intellectually stimulated about fantasies than visually (don't get me wrong we love a well put together guy, if we are wired to like men) stimulated so don't send me unsolicited pictures of yourself.

Write to me, describe a scene or a situation, let me fill in what you look like, I'll build a scene around our interactions. If you can stimulate me intellectually, I'll stay engaged.

(On a complete side note, if you want to do something visual come see me in Second Life, we can play real hard then.)

Oh, and I have nothing against it, in fact I enjoy it, but stop getting your 'facts of life' about BDSM from porn. I am not your slave because you can smack me around (Hell I've got 4 brothers who could probably smack most of you around) or scream curses at me. If all you want is to torment and execute me, then yeah, porn isn't a bad representation.

But if you want me to be your willing submissive there is a real good chance that I will be submissive to you if I find you have an intellect worthy of being admired. True slavery is of the mind, not physical force, I know I'm submissive in RL but only to people whom I admire and respect.

I'm not complaining but often women don't really get engaged in groups like this because some idiot unknowingly screws up. Consider the above a life lesson to help you not screw up.

kisses

willowfall

ps: Mods I wasn't sure where to post this. Move it if you wish.
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Gosh. I'm not a naive man, I know this sort of thing is out there but I didn't think it was here on CF. I also appreciate the contributions from the girls here and I personally do my level best to be respectful in my interactions but just don't really understand why that comes harder for some folks.

I was a lurker here for nearly a decade, someone actually called me their favorite lurker once (as although a lurker I did have a small number of PM interactions) which I won't lie actually felt pretty cool. My quietness was out of caution and trust reasons. I am now an active commenter here on crux issues of interest to me. But I would be very cautious if ever going down the track of a RL meeting.

I just hope that these sour interactions that have been mentioned on the part of some inadequate men don't make the females on here stereotype all men. There are good men around and on here who would never consider behaving in this way and men can get unwanted attention and stalking too. But lastly let me say that on the subject of RL meetings if you have any doubts at any stage that it is better to be safe than sorry.
 
Loxuru said:
You see things too extreme! A woman’s entourage consists at least of an intelligent man, a man with humour, a romantic man, one for the sex and one with lots of money to spend for her.:rota2::roto2cafe::roto2rie::roto2qtemeto::roto2gay::roto2palm:
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Then there are far to many females on the earth. The number of females is then limited to the smallest number of this five groups of men. That prinbciple btw was invented by my dear colleague Prof. J.v.Liebig (law of the minimum)

 
Crucified Life said:
Gosh. I'm not a naive man, I know this sort of thing is out there but I didn't think it was here on CF. I also appreciate the contributions from the girls here and I personally do my level best to be respectful in my interactions but just don't really understand why that comes harder for some folks.

I was a lurker here for nearly a decade, someone actually called me their favorite lurker once (as although a lurker I did have a small number of PM interactions) which I won't lie actually felt pretty cool. My quietness was out of caution and trust reasons. I am now an active commenter here on crux issues of interest to me. But I would be very cautious if ever going down the track of a RL meeting.

I just hope that these sour interactions that have been mentioned on the part of some inadequate men don't make the females on here stereotype all men. There are good men around and on here who would never consider behaving in this way and men can get unwanted attention and stalking too. But lastly let me say that on the subject of RL meetings if you have any doubts at any stage that it is better to be safe than sorry.
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Well said. I also despise men who are world class jerks that give us all a bad name. But I do think most women are good about not painting us all with the same brush. For that I am grateful.
 
Loxuru said:
You see things too extreme! A woman’s entourage consists at least of an intelligent man, a man with humour, a romantic man, one for the sex and one with lots of money to spend for her.:rota2::roto2cafe::roto2rie::roto2qtemeto::roto2gay::roto2palm:
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There was a study that seemed to indicate that any woman who is already in a serious relationship already knows at least one man as a viable replacement for the current partner.

Survival of the species (remember sex is BIOS programming and human society turned it into an Olympic sport) requires diversification of the gene pool. Species that are monogamous as far as sex partners are concerned tend to be a minority.

kisses

willowfall
 
dfg42 said:
Then there are far to many females on the earth. The number of females is then limited to the smallest number of this five groups of men. That prinbciple btw was invented by my dear colleague Prof. J.v.Liebig (law of the minimum)

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Funny how nature tends to disagree with the good Professor since naturally females are a plurality in both society and among the members of the species that are born.

kisses

willowfall
 
willowfall said:
Funny how nature tends to disagree with the good Professor since naturally females are a plurality in both society and among the members of the species that are born.

kisses

willowfall
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At one of the conferences I was attending the following discussion was developing

'But, Sir, your theory contradicts the reality.'

'That made it even worse for the reality!"


But, naturally we can correct the nature by crucifying the supernumerary females.
 
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