Messaline;
Respectfully Love, as a bi-woman, I have to disagree. I think straight women will never understand what we see in another woman or how we can find pleasure in sexual activities with them but I really don't think that applies to straight men.
They are very interested in sex with women and, maybe I've been lucky but the guys I have been with really want to please the woman they are with. So a number of them have asked about what happens in lesbian sex that is different than hetero sex hoping to learn new and different ways to please the women in their lives.
Where I will agree with you is that because men are wired differently, emotionally, than women are they can never real understand how we feed off each other's sexual run up to an orgasm. How the emotional satisfaction of one partner can fuel and boost the satisfaction of another.
Don't get me wrong, I get a great deal of emotional pleasure in pleasing a man when I am with him, it's just different between a guy and a girl than it is between 2 girls.
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