Funny. I just advised a young chap who frequents this community with a female named profile and who sought real life meeting not to be pushy and over-focussed. My girl friend sometimes shows me pushy messages from males from a sex dating app (we're pretty liberal folks, open to meet new friends): Those reflect some kind of "urgency" and lack of interest in her as a person. "Fulfill my wish to fuck" - or (here): "Serve my crux-kink!"
Well... how about doing things in the usual order: 1) get to know, 2) eventually do crux play together?
I have happily met with a man and a woman from cruxforums in real life.
We just wrote a couple of times, exchanged phone numbers, chit-chat, bought flight tickets... and the result is what you see as my profile picture: Few times together on crosses - next to very nice downtown dinings, chatting about life etc..
Before that, I had also met US Americans (myself being from Europe), and I very much enjoyed the trip to Texas for all the vacation-stuff, Houston BDSM scene party and that crux play in my friends' "garden" - with 2 miles between neighbours.
However, for the majority of people (almost all of which men), the internet is no longer means of communication but a way to live life behind a screen. Well, that's alright (though to me movies like "The Matrix" had always been dystopias). I personally do not waste time jerking off in front of a computer screen (and call it "sex life"), but go out and meet people, talk about life and passions ...and sometimes mention my crux kink, such as on BDSM events. I met my girl friend through a vanilla dating app, and on our first meeting she actually mentioned her plan to attend a BDSM party - whereupon I told her about my hook suspension, BDSM etc. in the past... and so we went to that party and I put her on a Spanish Horse and carressed and kissed her by which she got and enjoyed orgasms - and learned about a new (masochistic) side of her sexuality.
When I mention and explain my kink, some men and women get attracked by the idea of crux-play; so we just arrange things and play - the same way we say: "Hey, let's do a tracking tour next weekend or go to see that standup comedian."
My Austrian friend's girl-friend had a kink to be "burried in a grave", so she enacted that for her, building a box for the head with oxygen tube etc. and letting her "dig her own grave" on the international summer BDSM camp (SISC) in Denmark. Different people, different kinks.
Internet's promise to bring together people has not been fulfilled. It is rather the opposite: Shy people, particularly men, often with no sex life at all (other than masturbation), have settled themselves into this "life" of consumtion (porn), and the ability of human interaction is degenerating progressively. That is a nice trap, is it not? A late Dutch-German sex researcher concluded about the internet that his country was "becoming a masturbation society" - and he died 9 years ago.
And, by the way, I consider 99.9% of profiles in this community registered by men.
Always funny, when we get approached by a "woman", agree to get in touch, and - after enthusiastic writing - "she" realises that at one point "she" will have to show "herself" by a phone call or meeting in a public place. "Oops." - Kindergarten!
"I cannot give my private phone" (...so I never really want to meet people?) - "No prob. Get yourself a skype account that you can dump again, if needed" - "Em... I have no microphone" ...and so on, and so on, and so on...