No, no thanks, dear Laura! I'm just speaking from within, the way I feel.
And as far as aftercare is concerned, many other Doms initially sneered at me and made fun of me when I showed my role-play partners my appreciation, respect and thanks with a parting gift.
(Apart from my regular fetish girlfriends, these are often regular partners of other Doms who they make available to me for sessions for a few hours, sometimes for a day or even a weekend event together).
If I know what the lady in question likes, I'll give her exactly that, be it a fine bouquet of chocolates, a bunch of flowers, an engraved lucky charm amulet or a necklace, etc.
Outside of BDSM sessions, I'm an old-school gentleman and my ladies really appreciate that.
In the meantime - lo and behold! - this has caught on and I can see that other gentlemen also show their play partners similar appreciation.
The aftercare is often more important to me than a hard session itself. Or to put it another way: The harder the action, the more intense my aftercare needs to be. For me, this primarily involves sitting together on a chaise longue or lying together on the bed, arm in arm, she must feel my warmth, my respect, she must feel that she is sitting or lying in the arms of a man who likes her, who admires her, who confirms her in her self-chosen submissive role, who confirms her as a woman.
Aftercare is so important! And this is the only way I understand and practise a serious and harmonious D/s action.
