@Kathy I totally understand what you are experiencing. I also attend events,called "munches" once a month,and one is held at a very local (Dom) friend's house,which actually includes
two play-rooms,both of which come equipped,but guests can bring their own equipment....(if so desired).
But,for legal reasons there are very
strict guidelines, no sexual acts,or full nudity for instance....
If one
were to hire a room privately there would be,(to me) a reasonable charge,per session....all kink play
MUST be consensual and safely carried out.
I wish you well in your endeavours and look forward to reading more....kink away !!